Take this for instance for instance, there’s this girl (LET’S CALL HER “A”) and there’s this guy (LET’S CALL HIM “B”), and then there’s this other guy (LET’S CALL HIM “C”). Make sure you get the assigned letters down as you may become confused shortly.

Now in the beginning B likes A. They’ve known each other for a little bit, but nothing ever happened…not even close. But after some time B began to like A as a potential datee (yes 2 e’s). B had many chances to advance with A but never took any of them despite the fact that he was beginning to like her. A never made any indications that she did though, however she didn’t make any blatant moves that said she didn’t either. Now C comes along purely on a friendly tip, but after a little time a slight bit of chemistry builds…nothing too spectacular but the lighter fluid has been filled. Eventually manhood and curiousity gets the best of C and he drops little hints that he’s down for whatever, while in the presence of B and (un)naturally B gets uncomfortable with C’s attempts (oops I forgot to say B and C are somewhat friends, not ride or die but respectful enough). Later down the road B says he’s no longer interested in A (even though she still hasn’t made her position known) so I suppose C thinks he’s in the clear to a certain degree. Later A and B go out on a friendly tip and B explains that he was uncomfortable with C’s implications. He figured I might as well be truthful so she doesn’t get the wrong message. At this point everything is still cool. No harm done.

…weeks go by…

A is still coming around (she’s madd cool) and B has found someone else (WE CAN CALL HER AA I GUESS) and C is still down for whatever but had left the situation alone. However with the season back in season the tides begin to change and A and C are feeling each other a little bit. During regular conversation A mentions to C that B had many opportunities to make a pass but never did, so that was his loss. In other words, he never even tried anything, but he should have. However, on the same note A admits that nothing would have happened anyway even if B did try.

So this is my question to all the XX’s and XY’s out there. Why do we want someone to try and get at us when we know in our minds they have no chance?

I’m guessing it has to do with the fact that the XY’s may be so used to the XX’s turning down numerous XY’s that B didn’t think there was any point in trying anything with her. Maybe the dude was tired of hearing “I have a boyfriend”, or “Sorry not interested” that he felt it was in his best interest to keep his hands to himself. I mean, ladies…yes YOU…why do you want a guy to ball out when you know you’re going to shut him down? Is it the fact that he’s even trying that you crave? I have my own answers so I can’t be the voice for all the XX’s.

So let me know what’s up.

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