I asked him why he loves me and he responded without a second thought, “I just do.” At the time his answer was too simple and it didn’t seem like enough for me.

In search of a more meaningful answer I replied, “ok, but why?” So to make me happy I suppose, he listed a couple of things that were enough to end the conversation. It’s not like I didn’t believe he did and needed him to justify his feelings, but his first response felt too easy. I mean we’re always being told that love is complicated and full of many layers right? So to say you just do is kind of an insult to the feeling right? It can’t be THAT easy. It’s LOVE we’re talking about! At the time I wanted specific reasons and examples. I wanted to know why I was the last person he wanted to be with till the day he dies. A flip chart complete with diagrams and maps would have sufficed. Besides, I never asked him that before so when it came to my mind I felt the need to. Although it’s kind of funny to me now because I don’t remember any of the things he listed. I’ve been trying really hard for the last two minutes, but I can’t think of one thing. All I can remember is “I just do.”

I wonder why I REALLY asked that. Maybe I felt like the longer the list was the more he loved me. Or perhaps the more unique his answer the deeper his love for me ran. None of those feelings occured afterward mind you. I made the mistake of measuring the length of the sentence rather than understanding the depth of its meaning. NOW I think that his first response is the best one ever and I really can’t ask for more.

“I just do”. For me it means that he doesn’t think twice about it. It means that the feeling is unconditional and there isn’t a list of criteria that he checks weekly to see if I’ve met it. It’s not something he has to tell himself to do, he just does it. At first I wanted more out of his answer but after thinking about it I realize that his answer already means so much more. He loved me from the first moment he saw me and never stopped ever since.

Think about it. When you’re at the alter and the priest asks you if “u do” you just say “I do”, you don’t proceed to explain why. At that moment “I do” is all you want and need to hear because the rest will follow.

So now, I’m truly happy with the “I just do” I received that day because his love IS just that simple and I…just do too.

Peace.

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